Everyone should pick up a self-help book at some point in their adult life. Ignore that lie you have that “I don’t need a self-help book”, or that mindset that makes people think they don’t need therapy – when they really do. Self-help books are powerful, motivating and full of energy that you can access easily.
By picking up a self-help book you are saying that you have room to grow, which we all do. You might not realize it at first, but give these authors a chance to show you.
It wasn’t until last year, 2018, that I really started to intentionally read self-help books. I picked up the odd one before that, which often dealt with managing my anxiety. Today though, I am searching for the best self-help books that will change my mindset, help me thrive and live my best life.
Below is a list of 10 self-help books you should be reading in 2019 to help you live a happier, more fulfilled life. Some of the books I’ve already read, while others have been on my to-read list or were recommended by readers.
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Or your Kindle…or rented from the library…
Happier Now by Nataly Kogan
This book was recommended to me by @justseaforyou via Twitter. She said:
“I’m always recommending this book! So many great tips for managing the ups and downs in life and just easy habits to make you a generally happier person”
Kogan’s debut book, Happier Now: How to Stop Chasing Perfection and Embrace Everyday Moments (Even the Difficult Ones) was published on May 1, 2018, and has 4.06 stars on Goodreads. According to her website, what you will get out of Happier Now are insights into:
- How learning to be unhappy can teach you how to be happy
- How to use your emotional immune system
- How to get out of what she calls the Valley of Suffering and into the Valley of Joy
- Embracing negative emotions to reduce their intensity
- How to have self-compassion and motivation to improve
- The Bigger Why
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson
This colorfully titled book was recommended to me by @ALittleAdult via Twitter. She said:
“I just finished my first self-help-ish book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck and absolutely LOVED it!”
Published September 13th, 2016, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life is the self-help book for people who hate self-help books!
Mark Manson is also a blogger and internet entrepreneur whose book sold almost 2 million copies in its first year (source) – #lifegoals. In it, he provides a no-nonsense approach to personal development by teaching people that life is not perfect and the way to thrive is to start not giving a f*ck.
This book has been on my to-read list for a while now and I can’t wait to get into it in 2019.
The 5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins
The 5-Second Rule: Transform Your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage by Mel Robbins, was recommended by @SandraC_CrespoC via Twitter.
If you’re not already aware who Mel Robbins is, she is a motivational speaker, CNN commentator, television host, and writer. I know her best from her YouTube channel and books, one of which is The 5-Second Rule.
At the age of 40, she found herself in a rut. While she struggled with failure in many aspects of her life she came up with the “5-second rule”. She would give herself 5-seconds to get moving and move forward. Waking up, she counted to 5 and shot out of bed. It was this action that changed her life’s course and brought it back to life. Rather than waste time thinking, she acted. The 5-Second Rule teaches you to overcome your excuses and push yourself.
I can’t wait to get into this one this year!
You Are a Badass Every Day by Jen Sincero
The self-help books You Are a Badass was recommended by @shedreamsallday via Twitter.
Since 2013, Jen Sincero has published three books in this series:
- You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life (2013)
- You Are a Badass at Making Money: Master the Mindset of Wealth (2017)
- You Are a Badass Every Day: How to Keep Your Motivation Strong, Your Vibe High, and Your Quest for Transformation Unstoppable (2018)
I’ve read the first of the three last year and highly recommend reading it. You can check out my review here.
Her series is a no-nonsense, sassy guide to success in your personal and professional life. In the latest book, published last month, she provides us with 100 exercises to help us stay on track with her mindset training. A companion book for the first two, it holds you accountable as you strive for your goals.
The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo
This book was suggested via Facebook by Christie Carbery at Upheaval Project. She said:
“I started reading it thinking that it would be silly and it really changed my life.”
With Marie Kondo’s method, known as the Konmari Method, you either get it or you don’t. I suggest reading her book or watching her Netflix series before choosing a side.
The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing teaches you how to simplify and organize your home. However, it’s not just simply tidying up that is the magic of the Konmari Method. Her technique involves tackling clutter through a system of categories, expressing gratefulness and discovering what sparks joy. Tidying with Marie Kondo is both physical labor and a mindset shift. Her clients are left with a sense of calm and renewed motivation following her guidance.
Her technique has received mixed results among Westerners, some praising her and others claiming there’s too much woo woo. I’m on the former side, having gone through my clothing, folded them using the Konmari Method and discovering just how powerful her method is.
Try it out for yourself!
Girl, Wash Your Face by Rachel Hollis
This book is suggested by yours truly, ME.
Published early last year, Girl, Wash Your Face: Stop Believing the Lies About Who You Are so You Can Become Who You Were Meant to Be, sheds light on the lies we tell ourselves through the experience of its author, Rachel Hollis.
Mrs. Hollis is the founder of TheChicSite.com, and CEO of her own media company, Chic Media. Through her blog, she teaches women how to live their best life. What I love about Rachel Hollis is she is completely real and authentic about how messy her life really is. She does not hide behind her curated professional photography on Instagram, posting a raw photograph for every glossy one. While she teaches women how to get their life together, she also teaches that life isn’t perfect and we shouldn’t expect it to be.
In Girl, Wash Your Face, Rachel uses her own life experience to teach us valuable lessons about our limiting beliefs. Some of the lies she’s experienced and tackles include “I’ll Start Tomorrow” and “I’m Not Good Enough”.
To read my book review of Girl, Wash Your Face go here.
Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod
This is another book that I recommend everyone read.
It’s very short, at only 140 pages, and can be digested over a weekend. What you will gain is the motivation and tools to start your morning right and become more efficient throughout the day.
With morning routines a trending topic, Hal Elrod shares the 1 hour miracle morning routine that changed his life for the better. Using the acronym S.A.V.E.R.S., he explains how silence, affirmations, visualization, exercise, reading, and scribing can set you up for the rest of your day. What he discovered was by combining different self-care practices into a single hour, an hour earlier than you normally would rise, you can alter your mindset for success.
Use Miracle Morning to motivate you to become an early riser in 2019 (if that’s what you want) and incorporate a morning routine that works.
To read my review of Miracle Morning click here.
The Bullet Journal Method by Ryder Carroll
If you’re an aspiring bullet journaler than this book is for you!
Ryder Carrol is the founder of the bullet journal, which is part journal part to-do list. The description of Goodreads.com states:
“The Bullet Journal Method is about much more than organizing your notes and to-do lists. It’s about what Carroll calls “intentional living:” weeding out distractions and focusing your time and energy in pursuit of what’s truly meaningful, in both your work and your personal life. It’s about spending more time with what you care about, by working on fewer things.”
What you will get from the Bullet Journal Method: Track the Past, Order the Present, Design the Future is a deeper understanding of your bullet journal, how it allows you to understand your past, live in the present and plan your future. And all from the creator of the bullet journal phenomenon.
Unfu*k Yourself by Gary John Bishop
If you like You Are a Badass, you will be a fan of Gary John Bishop’s book Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life. With the same tough-love, no-nonsense, attitude as Sincero, Bishop empowers people by teaching them how to overcome their limiting beliefs.
By picking up his book, you will work your way through the following statements:
- I am willing
- I am wired to win
- I got this
- I embrace the uncertainty
- I am not my thoughts, I am what I do
- I am relentless
- I expect nothing and accept everything
If you wanted to take his training even further, you should check out his class via CreativeLive called “Stop Making Excuses“.
How Women Rise by Sally Helgesen and Marshall Goldsmith
The final book I’m going to suggest in my list of self-help books for 2019 is How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back From Your Next Raise, Promotion or Job by Sally Helgesen and Marshall Goldsmith. Published in April 2018, How Women Rise is written to target women-specific challenges that Goldsmith’s first book didn’t cover well.
Partnering with Sally Helgesen, a women’s leadership expert, they created this handbook to help women advance in their careers.
With the focus over the last few years on gender equality in the workplace, it’s become ever important for women to prove themselves. How Women Rise helps women target specific behaviors that will move them closer to their best selves and habits that are holding them back.
I’m looking forward to reading this book and applying it to my own life.
There you have it! The self-help books YOU should be reading in 2019. While I’ve read some of these, there are many self-help books I still need to get my hands on!
Have a suggestion that didn’t make the list? Comment below!